Get a Little Kindness in Your Life

Happy “Randoms Acts of Kindness” day. Showing love and kindness to others actually boosts mental health. Don’t miss the chance to bring positive energy into the world. The hardest battles are those we fight alone or in private and is never a wrong time to give others encouragement and support. Family, friends, coworkers, or strangers can be a great target for random acts of kindness today.

15 IDEAS TO PASS ON THE KINDNESS

1. Text someone something nice. It can be an encouraging quote you like or just a message letting them know how important they are for you

2. Reply to a post you enjoy. Take the effort of making the Internet a positive and constructive place.

3. Thank someone today. Think of someone that did something nice for you and thank them.

4. Water your plant. Think of your plants as if they were your pets, they need nutrients to look beautiful.

5. Start saving funds for a cause you care about. Pick a charity organization or organize your own event and start filling up that piggy bank!

6. Write down someone’s best qualities. Think of someone that can use some encouragement and give them a list of everything wonderful about them.

7. Switch to paperless mail. Be kind to the environment and reduce the junk mail you get.

8. Foster a pet. Adopting a pet is a big commitment but fostering allows you to enjoy their company and help them while they find their forever home.

9. Be kind to your server. When eating out sometimes we can take our service for granted. Be kind to those behind the counter and brighten each other’s days

10. Cook a meal for someone. Who doesn’t love free food, right?!

11. Pick up trash in your neighborhood. Help your community look beautiful and be environmentally friendly. You and other friends can help pick up trash and recycle

12. Leave a surprise in a library book. Help the next reader get a love attack! You can leave a nice bookmark or kind message for whoever gets the book next.

13. Donate clothes and shoes to shelters. People in the community that might be going through a rough time in life will greatly appreciate it. Share what you can with others in need.

14. Complain less. Sometimes is easy to see everything that’s going wrong. How about focusing on the positive? This is a great leadership quality.

15. Be polite on the road. The stress of traffic can get to anyone. Being kind to someone while commuting can change their whole day!


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7 Ways to a Positive Perspective

We’ve all heard the adage, “Be positive!”

What is all this hype about positivity? Some people who haven’t jumped on the positivity bandwagon might argue that their cynical outlook on life is a more realistic way of seeing the world, while those who try to force themselves to be happy are just lying to themselves.

So which is right? Which perspective and outlook on life has the greatest benefit? Is it all a matter of preference?

The realist perspective is one that humans developed long ago. This view on life is the brain trying to self-preserve, avoid potential threats, and stay safe. In the past, these threats were life-threatening, but our world has dramatically evolved since the pre-historic era. This approach doesn’t yield as many benefits as it once did our prehistoric ancestors.

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What’s so great about being positive?

A positive perspective is not an easy one. It can be especially hard when difficult situations and annoying occurrences arise.

While positive thinking is nothing more than the way you decide to view each situation, it can make your life a whole lot easier. Being positive won’t change your situation, but it will help you get through the tough times.

Why is this? Have you ever had a day where you woke up on the wrong side of the bed and then got up to eat breakfast and knocked over, broke, or spilled something?

Or have you ever been angry and felt like the whole world was conspiring against you? This happens because the things you focus on become magnified.

When we have a negative focus, we tend to find all the things that are wrong with our life or the day. On the flip side, when we train our brains to find the positive things in life, we find them.

What can I do to be more positive?

The critics of positivity have it right when they say that it is difficult to will yourself positive. Positivity is like a muscle and when you work it out, aka practice positivity, it grows stronger.

If you’re looking to work on living a more positive life, here are some things you can try:

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Be grateful

Brene Brown, a researcher on shame, vulnerability, and connection, found that the happiest people (or who she calls “wholehearted”) all have one thing in common; they all have a gratitude practice.

When you begin to train your brain to see the positive things in life, it is hard not to be happier.

Think about it this way- there are only so many things you can think about at once, so if you are focusing on what you’re grateful for, you won’t be thinking about the negative.

A gratitude practice could be many different things. Listed below are just a few.

  • Journaling daily about what you are grateful for
  • Having a grateful practice with someone else where you both share what you’re grateful for each day
  • Incorporate gratitude into your daily meditation or prayers
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Listen to positive music

Finding upbeat or calming music can be a great way to change your mood. Look for music with lyrics that will empower you and help you notice the good things in the world. Try to avoid music that will bring you down.

Look for the Lesson

No matter how positive you may be, there will be instances where times get hard. In these instances, it can be helpful to look for the lesson to be learned or to see what you may not have understood before.

While you may not be happy-go-lucky all the time, positivity can make the hard times a little more bearable and help you manage the rough waters.

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Be nice to yourself

For most people, they are their worst critic. Positivity begins from within. If you find that you often have negative self-talk or negative beliefs about yourself, you may want to work on these thoughts/beliefs.

Some things that may help negative beliefs or self-talk include the following.

  • Become conscious of your negative self-talk. This will give you insight as to the circumstances that trigger these thoughts. It will also help give you some insight into what beliefs you may hold about yourself.
  • See a counselor or therapist to learn skills to process your beliefs. Therapists are a great resource for gaining insight as to when and why negative beliefs formed and how to overcome them.
  • Change the way you talk to yourself. If you often say “I am….” statements, try to change this instead to a statement about the action itself and not you as a person.

E.g. “I am a mistake,” versus, “I made a mistake.”

  • Replace negative statements with more encouraging statements

E.g. “I’m so fat!” versus, “I may not be where I would like to be, but I’m

working towards it. “

Smile

A smile is a win-win for everyone. A simple smile from you can transform someone else’s day, but it also has positive effects for you.

Did you know there’s research showing that smiling (a real smile that includes “smiling with your eyes”) can actually make you happier?

When one smiles, the body releases a happy hormone into the bloodstream. So beware, if you smile, you’re bound to be happier than you were before. Try it!

Act

Take control of your life! There are things that aren’t in our control, such as the weather, other people’s actions, etcetera; however, there are many things that are in our control.

If you find yourself becoming annoyed, bothered, angry, sad, or any other reactionary emotion, take a moment to reflect on what part of the situation is in your control. Once you figure that out, take action and change what you can, and accept what you can’t.

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Assume the best

This one might be the hardest to implement, but it is especially helpful in those situations we can’t control that involve other people. When you are reacting negatively to the actions of other people, tell yourself this phrase, “They are doing the best they can” (Brene Brown, Rising Strong).

When we assume that others have good intentions and that they are doing the best they can with the tools they have, we then respond with more compassion, patience, understanding, empathy and are emotionally in a better place to know how to correctly handle the situation(Brene Brown, Rising Strong).

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How to Stay Positive Even When it Seems Impossible

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could wish on a shooting star and magically you’d stay positive? Or you could ask a fairy godmother to make you more positive? Or you could rub a genie lamp and somehow find the positive in even the worst situations? Well, unfortunately very few of us live in a Disney movie. But fortunately, there are some things we can do to find positivity — even when it’s difficult.

What’s so great about being positive?

If you’re asking that question, maybe it’s time you tried being positive. Dwelling in the negative is not only not fun, but it doesn’t do anything to solve the situation.

Being positive isn’t always the easiest thing to do because we come upon difficult situations and annoying occurrences almost daily. But finding the positive can at least make things a little less difficult for you, even though it’s just all in your head. Being positive won’t change your situation, but it will help you get through the tough times.

What can I do to be more positive?

If you’re looking to work on living a more positive life, here are some things you can try:

Be grateful

When you start thinking about all the things you are grateful for, you can start to see the positive things that you have in your life. Think about it this way: there’s only so many things you can think about at once, so if you are focusing on what you’re grateful for, you won’t be thinking about the negative. You can write down what you’re grateful for in a grateful journal, or you can tell a friend or family member what you’re grateful for.

Listen to positive music

Finding upbeat or calming music can be a great way to change your mood. Look for music with lyrics that will empower you and help you notice the good things in the world. Try to avoid music that will bring you down.

Look for the silver lining

Remember in the movie Enchanted when Patrick Dempsey’s character comes home to find all these rats, cockroaches, and pigeons in his house? Well, he obviously shoos them out, but Princess Giselle saw those sewage creatures as her helpers. So even though Patrick Dempsey’s character was appalled, the silver lining was at least his house was (somewhat) clean now.

Be nice to yourself

Sometimes your biggest critic is you. If you find you’re being negative and it reflects in how you talk to yourself or think about yourself, try to change this. Instead of saying, “You’re stupid,” try to tell yourself more encouraging statements, such as “Good job at trying your best.” Don’t dwell in the negativity by contributing to it.

Smile

Turn that frown upside-down. Did you know there’s actually research showing that smiling (a real smile that includes “smiling with your eyes”) can actually make you happier? Try it!

Act

Take control of your life! There are things that aren’t in our control, such as the weather. But there are some things that are in our control, so if something is bothering you, take a moment to reflect on what part of the situation is in your control. Once you figure that out, take action and change what you can, and accept what you can’t.

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Self-improvement: Focus on the Positive

To aid in your journey of self-improvement make a deliberate effort to focus on the positive today. In your journal write about the positive things you noticed; a smile, a thoughtful act, a fragrant smell, and how the act of focusing on the positive effected you throughout the day. People who choose to make the effort to find positive in their experiences are happier, healthier and find more opportunities than individuals who focus on the negative.